Safe Spaces

The unpredictability of life is such that we encounter the unexpected at the most profound moments in our lives. Nothing is without purpose, and everything comes lesson bound. And so, during those defining moments, we decide whether we peel off the layers and expose our all in all or retreat further in the shadows of our minds, fearful of how we are perceived.

As human beings desirous of meaningful connections, we tend to blow like the wind and land in places where we divulge more than we should, for the sake of pouring out the pain dealt to our souls. In time, however, we come to uncover the lack of genuineness of the people we choose to surround ourselves with, and we go around playing the blame card game, without silencing our egos and accepting that there are scarred parts of us that crave the broken cycles of abusive friendships. Those friendships that validate our insecurities and support our "crap", those friendships that keep us in a loop of competition, and those friendships that shower us with regress rather than progress, yes, that is abuse.

But what if, you decided today to do some work, to find your inner child and rescue him or her, transforming him or her into a being desirous of safety and balance. Safe spaces exist, and we can find them in people, who like us, at one point in time, were unaware that they were giving so much of themselves in exchange for the sugar- coated, yet illness-giving negative validation which further drove their egos into despair.

Thus, the appeal is to find your "people", your safe space to pour out without judgement. A safe space to dismantle your armour without fear of getting it robbed from you, a safe space where integrity is the bargain, that if life creates an unfavourable circumstance, that their first instinct is never to sell you out to the wolves, but rather hold sacred what you once shared. Safe spaces exist because as the writer, it has been a remarkable experience and it all stemmed from going inward, remaining present and being aware.

You too, will find your safe space, and when you get there, you will guard it with a gate of credence. Find it and honour it. Recognize that you, as a human being cannot be an island. Therefore, may you find the connections that your soul craves; to grow, to elevate and to flourish. Persist and when you find your safe space, claim it with honesty and humility.