Forget Them

The quest for closure can sometimes come at a high price. People intentionally hurt us and act like we pulled the knife from their back. Closure sometimes looks like accepting that others do not associate themselves with accountability. Closure can look like understanding that others are more interested in their self- righteousness and false sense of grandiosity than actually building and sustaining meaningful relationships. Closure can look like accepting that some people will never admit they are wrong even if the devil held the meeting with them himself. Closure means choosing you. Choosing you and walking away from what others will never acknowledge. Why don't you acknowledge how amazing you are instead, how freely you love, how slow you judge and how automatically that light inside you shines? Why don't you focus on the glowing parts of you, feast with yourself and break good bread?

People eventually tell on themselves, just give them time. Did you take accountability in situations where you were wrong? Did God purpose the right people in your path to bestow His loving grace upon you? Well, you are liberated while they hold on to past versions of you that suit flawed narratives and do not align with who you are no longer. Let them be and let the guilt of the stories they spin entrap them in the most intricate of webs. Closure can look like forgetfulness. Yes, forget them, not because you believe you are superior but to send a powerful message that their existence bears no weight on who you are and what you are about to become.

We have all been guilty of hurting others, be it intentionally or unintentionally. It would be an injustice to yourself to deny otherwise. What sets us apart is how we are willing to deal with it. Do we convince ourselves that we had every right to and continue pumping up our chests full of entitlement or do we humble ourselves and act like the God we preach is actually inside of us an outward extension of His grace, helping to heal the wounds that we have slit open?

Forget the ones who've wronged you and who never looked over their shoulders to see the extent of the blood you shed. Forget them and place them in an absent realm, in the darkest corners, sealed and signed away. Forget them so much that even when you see them, you do not even recognize them. Do not make space for those who cannot acknowledge the ways they hurt you and who cannot communicate how they should make amends. Reconciliation without apology and changed behaviour is not a thing. Forget them, closure is free, make access to you a sensational mystery.